lqet
2 days ago
Before I had children, I regularly had nightmares in which I felt an incredible, consuming guilt. Usually the dream started quite normal, and suddenly I "remembered" in the dream that I had killed many, many people in the past and that I had just suppressed this memory for years. The rest of the dream was then usually spent in agony because of the guilt, or in disbelief that the police still hadn't found me. Sometimes some investigator suspected me, and I had to flee from the police or invent alibis.
The dreams stopped right around when my first child was born. Never had them since.
peacebeard
a day ago
Did your family or other community ever make you feel guilty for not having kids?
lqet
a day ago
That would also be my first interpretation, but no. Never. There was also no pressure from our side, we kind of decided that a kid would be nice now a few weeks before our marriage. She was born to the day 9 months after our wedding day.
But I suspect that deep down I kind of felt guilty in my late 20s for not having any offspring.