Let me blow this out of the water for you quickly.
I am currently unemployed for three years. I get no government assistance and myself, my wife and my children survive at the moment from support from some of our family members and one really good friend.
I consider myself not dumb and worked in It for two decades as a sys admin.
Now I cannot find a job, no matter how many leads I follow, resumès I submit or video interviews or tests I take.
I am between a rock and a hard place.
What I get from the vast majority of people I encounter is one of two things or maybe both.
1 - Hopes and prayers and wishes for my recovery.There's a light at the end of the tunnel. It's just a bend, not the end. It's always darkest before the dawn. Put your faith in Him. God will provide...
2- Derision. You are just lazy. You are not very smart. Have you tried this and that. You are not trying enough. You should speak to this one or do this thing...
The country I live in has famously given the world the word Ubuntu.
It equates to "I am, because you are"
Nice sentiment. If only it worked like that in practice.
In reality I have to rotate the days when we can eat to stretch out what we can get.Breakfast, lunch and supper is a nice thought. Snacks are a fantasy.
We eat a simple meal of rice or maize meal (corn meal) with either lentils or beans most days.Potatoes are a must, because we will certainly go down very fast without them.
I try to get some greens when I can because we need the vitamins and minerals, but I know we are severely deficient and right now.
Illness is super stressful, because I am never sure how bad it can get because our bodies are just not in the state that they should be. Most of us in the house are sick right now as I speak, so you can imagine...
And every day or most days I hear that word Ubuntu and have to laugh wryly. Because I know it's not true. I can die here in this shack, smothered in wishes and prayers.
The world ,for the most part, is selfish.
And no matter how you paint it, while debating the ins and outs of a particular moral stance - A loaf of bread beats a prayer on any given day.
I would like to continue my "tirade" ,but I'm tired now and my brain is foggy.
Must be those missing nutrients.