____tom____
12 hours ago
On the spectrum or go gentle vs fight, I'd have to say, now is the time is history where "fight" makes the most sense.
This is not abstract for me. I have not one, but two forms of cancer.
Both were considered incurable when I was diagnosed.
Both have treatments now that, IN SOME PEOPLE, lead to remission.
I still don't know which group I am, but I'd be dead from either one by now, if I hadn't elected to treat.
New treatments, for SOME cancers are literally coming out monthly.
So the fact that you can't be cured today, does mean there won't be a better treatment by next year, if you can hang on.
I should find out soon on my more aggressive one. Either way, I plan on continuing to try.
bruce511
7 hours ago
Lots of people will take any treatment offered. Indeed I would. That's a perfectly acceptable approach.
Yes, medical treatments are improving and hanging on is a good approach cause something may be around the corner.
I don't think the article is advocating for no treatment ever.
I think it is advocating for a balanced understanding of what treatment looks like, and balances that with quality of life. And indeed balances your age as well.
If I'm 80, I'm (somewhat) less concerned with length of life, and more concerned with quality. If I'm 50 that's a different equation.
It's very much a personal choice, but to make a choice you have to have information. And it's helpful if you can make the choice in a calm relaxed environment. Both can be missing immediately after hearing a diagnosis.
The point is that medical intervention is usually desired. But equally there's a place for acceptance and contentment.
zemvpferreira
5 hours ago
The father of a good friend passed away recently from a brain cancer. He was a doctor, but atypically accepted every treatment available. His last 3 years were spent in surgery or sick from chemo, did not have one good day after his initial diagnosis. If he could have gone back I'm sure he would have decided not to be treated.
xandrius
3 hours ago
Unless going back gets you to re-roll your dice then I'm sure they would still have done it.
zemvpferreira
2 hours ago
You might not want it for yourself but many people, especially health professionals in my experience, will take a smaller but less painful lifespan over a chance to live longer through horrible treatments.
teiferer
4 hours ago
Agreeing with your overall sentiment, but this caught my eye:
> If I'm 80, I'm (somewhat) less concerned with length of life, and more concerned with quality. If I'm 50 that's a different equation
Why is that? Is quality less important at 50? Would you be more willing to endure suffering if you are younger? Why? I'm thinking that no matter age, people would generally like to avoid a painful death. Maybe it's because it feels more likely to "beat this thing" when you are younger, and then still potentially have decades ahead of you?
buran77
3 hours ago
> Why is that?
By 80 most people have reconciled with the idea that they don't have too many years left even in the best of conditions. There's no hope of extending life, and there's little to look forward to, they already lived through all the important milestones they could realistically see. Quality is all that's left to hope for.
At 50 they still can still hope for recovery and a life beyond that. They have a lot of moments and milestones ahead of them, at least with family and loved ones - see their kids graduate, get married, or have their own children. So if the hope is stronger than the pain, they'll sacrifice the quality of life.
tonyedgecombe
32 minutes ago
My parents are in their eighties and they still have a good quality of life and things to look forward to.
They do have some health issues but they aren’t decrepit.
Someone
an hour ago
> By 80 most people have […] already lived through all the important milestones they could realistically see.
That’s at least partially culturally determined. As the healthy live expectancy creeps up slowly, I expect that idea to change. There’s some truth in the saying “50 is the new 40”
sleepychu
4 hours ago
I think you've got it exactly right:
- what is the expected gain? Years+Quality
- what is the maximum gain? Years+Quality
The older you are the smaller your maximum gain of Years can be.
inglor_cz
4 hours ago
Yeah, it is a big difference to undergo aggressive treatment at 50 vs. 80. Not just because of the potential years or months gained, but also because older bodies don't heal that well, or at all.
This is something that may be revolutionized through regenerative medicine, but hasn't so far.
hobo123
an hour ago
The question to ask is: did those people who got remission do so because of the treatment, because of something else, or despite treatment?
It seems to me that much of modern chemotherapy is rather barbaric, but this is very much an outside view.
Wish you all the best, with medicine, or without.
ComputerPerson
9 hours ago
Pancreatic cancer caregiver here.
It's a battle, not a boxing match, that you're fighting. No shame in a battle chant or maybe even a battle cry.
garyrob
3 hours ago
I had cancer, it came back twice in 5 years, but now I'm 10 years out from the last time and my odds are good. Just mentioning it, in case it's helpful to hear a positive anecdote.
Sending my hopes for your recovery. You're right that new research is yielding fruit, but I don't have to tell you that.
sghiassy
11 hours ago
Sending good wishes
hexeater
10 hours ago
Hero - keep fighting!
teiferer
4 hours ago
I think it's exactly this attitude which the article is about.
Of course I wish the best to whoever decides to fight. But fighting at any cost isn't the best advice.
eth0up
10 hours ago
Sending thoughts of remission through the aether. And wishing your tries become success.
stavros
7 hours ago
Give us an update in twenty years please.
hirvi74
11 hours ago
Keep fighting the good fight, Internet friend. I look forward to reading your remission comment one day.
throwawayk7h
8 hours ago
if nothing works, try cryonics. Maybe AI-2040 is right and we'll be able to revive you in a few years.