beardyw
7 hours ago
Each of us is the centre of our own little world. When we speak it is of no value except to the person listening[1]. The collision of these two facets creates most of the problems. Without going into to much detail, what your listener needs should be your first and often only concern. All too often people speak based on what they themselves need. As an example if you are talking to a group you know well, you may still have a need in yourself to break the tension, something they don't need, so to do so is self serving.
Obviously in, say, an interview you need to give a good impression. I am counting that as what the listener needs.
[1] sometimes what you hear yourself say can be relevant, but rarely!
yepyoukno
4 hours ago
Scuttlebutt!
Our words are meaning full.
Their measure of meaning are the measure of our own character.
Yours still matter in a world, a mesh of meaning something’s, never not so concise as an ounce of thought, for whatsoever have thoughts to begot, meaningful or nice [agreeable]?
If you haven’t noticed, there are different psychological strategies for communications. While a smooth affable interface is pleasing to many. Intrinsic meaning is a reflection of personal character. It doesn’t have to be cringe, though anythingn truly meaningful said in a smooth context is “good” fodder for conversation.
I like to turn to the disowned temperament classifiers to explain how various “kinds” may be identified with. Though if you prefer to honeymoon over nerd fight, learn to discourse of astrology, it will be better socially regarded.