Congress wants to hand your parenting to big tech

84 pointsposted 14 hours ago
by hn_acker

56 Comments

sdoering

13 hours ago

I am always wondering, if initiatives like these are a way to get a system in place that enables governments (by proxy of these platforms) a way to ensure any online activity is tied to a governmental id.

Because if you want to use these platforms this would mean you would have to prove your age.

Then I ask myself if I am wearing my tinfoil hat?

Sadly, nowadays, I am just not sure anymore.

V__

13 hours ago

I am more and more sure that isn't the case. That would imply long term planning, strategy and intelligence. Which is obviously missing nowadays.

It's just bribery, sorry I mean lobbying. Push this through, we make money and will fund your reelection.

analog31

13 hours ago

Let the industry regulate itself until people get angry enough. Keep pumping out addictive, manipulative content that's targeted at kids. Then we can see what the political reaction will be. That's assuming the industry hasn't already blown its chances. If it has, then it can hang on for a few more years by buying favoritism from the regime in power.

jauntywundrkind

9 hours ago

Our choices seem to either be getting tracked by everyone & the likely government to get through age gates (see recent EFF on the ad-tracking infecting age-gates, https://bsky.app/profile/eff.org/post/3mciort6sir2p ), or perhaps only being able to use a small number of approved browsers that supports a nea Digital Credential API, that can maintain our security somewhat but which restricted browser choice heavily & cuts out open source offerings (not necessarily but likely). https://developer.chrome.com/blog/digital-credentials-api-or...

iLoveOncall

12 hours ago

This is obviously the case, and I don't understand why anybody falls even a second for "it's for the children".

They don't give a flying fuck about the children, they want to have total control over the citizens because all westerns countries are more or less slowly slipping towards authoritarianism.

Dictatorships in 21st century first world country will be impossible to topple, once the government can reliably link your ID to your online activity, you'll be arrested before you even know you'll commit an anti-governmental act.

seneca

12 hours ago

I genuinely don't understand how anyone can think it's anything other than governments trying to destroy online anonymity. "Think of the children" is a cliche for a reason.

ocdtrekkie

12 hours ago

CSAM is not an overstated problem. If anything the amount of child abuse behavior online is an epidemic. The world's richest man sells a CSAM generator, the most popular game for kids under 12, Roblox, is besieged with predators.

Are governments good at regulating technology? Generally no. Is there a real problem that needs to be regulated: Oh my God, yes.

novok

11 hours ago

IMO I think the better solution is to make a full feature smartphone an 18+ item, much like beer. If you are under 18 you only get a very limited 'call mom' phone with no video camera, chat limited to your family, maps to find your way home with and an otherwise very restricted set of apps. Police can take contraband phones from teens much like they can take contraband beer. They would have a distinct design so the types are identifiable.

No identity checking system needed for using the general internet as a result.

You can still have a family ipad, TV, xbox, switch, laptop, school chromebook, large clunky semi-pro digital camera for movie club, a separate dedicated audio recorder, etc but the key is to stop gossip networks with video recordings / snapchat and make the digital experience similar to what millenials grew up with, the last generation who didn't get a huge spike in anxiety and depression.

Yes many teens will still get around it, but the idea is to add a lot of friction so you stop the network effects that are causing this in the first place.

skybrian

13 hours ago

If there were a store selling cigarettes to children, then naturally you'd want the store to stop doing it. It's their responsibility. But they do need information about who they're serving. (Just enough information.)

Making a website adults-only should be as easy as setting a web server's config parameter. The fact that the industry has taken so long to come up with a decent Internet standard for this is pretty ludicrous. It doesn't have to be perfect. Even just a minimal implementation like requiring an "X-adult: yes" HTTP header from the browser would work for a locked-down client like an iPhone.

Sure, older kids will get around it but that's okay; they probably learned something.

hypeatei

13 hours ago

I don't think it's that simple. Since the header mechanism is easy to bypass, there would be:

1) software that makes it easy to do for the layman (browser extensions etc.), and

2) scams and malware that target children offering a "bypass" to access adult websites

Then parents, teachers, and administrators need to be aware of the latest bypass mechanism thus sending them on a wild goose chase. I think this would end up similar to the Do Not Track header which ultimately no one cared about or took seriously.

goalieca

12 hours ago

In a case like this, perfect is the enemy of good.

A locked down iPhone or Chromebook is going to thwart everyone but the most determined without compromising any privacy.

scratchyone

11 hours ago

sure, but plenty of software already exists for those devices to block adult content and social media. it works just fine without a header. its actually even better, because that software can even block nefarious websites that would never comply with adding a header

skybrian

11 hours ago

Blocklists are useful, but a hint from the website that, actually, they don't want to cater to children would be useful when those blocklists aren't up to date.

goalieca

11 hours ago

Yeah, DNS blocking and browser lists are simple too. Sure. So why problem are the politicians trying to solution for?

idle_zealot

12 hours ago

> 1) software that makes it easy to do for the layman (browser extensions etc.), and

It's already a given that this only works on a locked-down device. Making it a simple binary "is this device owned by a minor" switch means parents will actually be able to understand it.

> 2) scams and malware that target children offering a "bypass" to access adult websites

And advertising to children should also be banned, so they won't be exposed to such scams, among other things. Thankfully this header lets the site know if they're breaking the law by showing scam ads, which makes prosecution super easy.

> I think this would end up similar to the Do Not Track header which ultimately no one cared about or took seriously.

Oh, of course none of this works unless it has the teeth of law to back it up.

pessimizer

12 hours ago

The Do Not Track header didn't die because of an arms race, it died because there wasn't any legislation making it criminal to track people who had explicitly indicated to you that they did not wish to be tracked.

Kids (especially ones close to the age of legal access anyway) will try (and succeed) in bypassing any sort of restriction on adult content including any of the digital ID garbage. There are any number of software scams targeting everybody, and your hypothetical just be another one; I doubt that it would increase the total number of such scams.

But requiring sites with adult content by law to require what would sort of be the opposite of Do Not Track flag (Let Me In?) would at least mean that kids would have to do something illicit on the client side to access adult websites that they would have to hide from their parents. If you made sure their phone or Chromebook was nerfed, you could make sure they couldn't install extensions or software that added the flag, you could strip it from their network requests; you could even strip it at the router. [edit: you could even opt-in with your phone company to strip it from your kid's phone's network requests.] You as a parent, and people who have nothing to do with kids, could trivially opt-in.

duskwuff

11 hours ago

> The Do Not Track header didn't die because of an arms race, it died because there wasn't any legislation making it criminal to track people who had explicitly indicated to you that they did not wish to be tracked.

That was the first big problem. The second was that some versions of MSIE set the header by default, without the user having taken any action to request it. This made it infeasible for any major web sites to honor the header - by doing so, they'd break functionality for most MSIE users. (MSIE was, at the time, still the dominant desktop web browser.)

gjsman-1000

12 hours ago

Also it already exists. It's called the RTA header; and it was invented by the porn industry decades ago to try and appear as a responsible self-regulating industry. (Total failure at that.)

Retr0id

11 hours ago

RTA seems reasonable to me, on a technical level. But the porn industry can't force anyone to implement the client side of it. Legislators itching to "do something" should've focused on that.

pyuser583

5 hours ago

The problem isn’t adults only websites. Those are easy to handle - just as you described.

The problem is social media. Reddit isn’t adults only, nor is instagram. They’re just people putting stuff up for their friends.

Some of the nastiest stuff I ever seen was in the comments of YouTube.

Retr0id

12 hours ago

If we're requiring a locked-down client, why not have the server advertise the age rating in a header and let the client decide whether it'll display the response or not? That way the server doesn't get to see any age information whatsoever.

jasonjayr

11 hours ago

It's not that simple, and it touches on a bunch of things that are at a nexus right now, that may end the anonymous internet.

(a) an identity provider needs to verify who is using the browser. If that can be strongly tied, then the identify provider could simply provide the "adult: yes" flag, on a need to know basis, but:

(b) the site consuming that header needs to trust that it came from a reliable source. So that flag needs to be signed/verified somehow, and the consuming site needs to trust that the identity provider doesn't lie. But also, the site consuming the header, by law, needs to do everything in can to ensure that it's not a child, so, it will need to ensure that the content is served ONLY to the web browser, and it trusts the web browser. Which means ....

(c) The browser will confirm to the site that it's real, it's trusted, it is not operated by some kind of relay/bot and won't send the content to anything other than the operator authenticated to the browser. So it's going to start signing it's requests with a secret key, but that key will need to be on the user's machine, which will need to be trusted, so ....

(d) the signing will have to happen in the secure element, and the key will have to be stored on the machine that the operator cannot access. So some kind of TPM/Measured computing will have to be in place so all parties can trust that nothing was tampered with, or relayed to something else that was not authenticated.

All these things exist today. So the simple law mandating "A site has to ensure that sensitive content is never served to a minor using the strongest technical means available" means anonymous access, untrusted computers on the network will no longer be allowed to work.

skybrian

11 hours ago

So don't pass a law that says that? This is letting the perfect get in the way of the barely adequate.

2OEH8eoCRo0

12 hours ago

Do they really need a standard or should they make sites liable for allowing children on?

There is no standard ID check protocol at liquor stores. If you're old they can just look at ya, some just look at your ID, others scan the ID. The govt didn't need to provide a standard. Just don't sell to kids. Figure it out! It's not on the govt to figure it out for you!

irishcoffee

11 hours ago

Pretty sure it’s a federal law in the US to card 100% of people actually, which I would call a standard ID check.

Not complying is a different point.

iLoveOncall

12 hours ago

> If there were a store selling cigarettes to children, then naturally you'd want the store to stop doing it.

No, I would want children to know better than to buy cigarettes.

notatoad

13 hours ago

>Big Tech is somehow both the problem and the solution

not sure why they're framing this like it doesn't make sense. of course the people who've created the problem would be in a position to solve it.

lateforwork

13 hours ago

The problem with "let the parents decide" is that if all other kids in the neighborhood have phones and are on social media then unless you want your kid to grow up with no friends you don't have a choice but to let your kid also use social media.

The government makes many basic restrictions for protecting children: parents can't give their children drugs or alcohol, porn, guns etc. Social media definitely fits in this category because it has been shown to cause mental harm.

armenarmen

12 hours ago

Sure, but is using the full force of the State, in the process tying all online activity to government IDs, really the best alternative to having a harder conversation with little Johnny and Sally?

koolba

12 hours ago

> The problem with "let the parents decide" is that if all other kids in the neighborhood have phones and are on social media then unless you want your kid to grow up with no friends you don't have a choice but to let your kid also use social media.

This is why you find a circle of friends and like mind neighbors who raise their kids in a manner that makes you comfortable. It’s never 1:1, but it doesn’t have to be you against the entire world either. (Though it can certainly feel like that at times)

lateforwork

11 hours ago

> This is why you find a circle of friends

Think about EU standardizing USB-C for charging. Many people were up in arms: Do you want the state to decide these things? However, personally I benefited. Now I have to carry around only one charger for all my devices.

If the govt standardizes non-smart phones for kids we will all benefit.

Shellban

9 hours ago

At what cost, though? Most laws have some sort of benefit, but it always comes at a cost. Are we all willing to pay that cost?

irishcoffee

11 hours ago

I would be completely down with kids only allowed to own flip phones without apps or internet. Phone calls and texts, bring back the infamous T9, kids under 16 are not allowed to be sold a non-flip phone.

Of course this doesn’t address tablets, netbooks etc.

So the actual answer is good parenting, which I posit is one of the bigger problems in the US today and has been for a long time.

Or we keep pretending that pushing education and passing laws about cell phones will somehow be a substitute for bad parenting. The US has been doing that for a long time as well, isn’t working.

mattmaroon

12 hours ago

Parents actually legally can give their kids alcohol and guns in most states. Porn I’m not sure about. You can’t give anyone drugs, unless they’re legal in which case you can give them to your kids.

seneca

12 hours ago

> The problem with "let the parents decide" is that if all other kids in the neighborhood have phones and are on social media then unless you want your kid to grow up with no friends you don't have a choice but to let your kid also use social media.

Sorry, no, this is just abdicating your responsibility as a parent. "It's hard" isn't an excuse for throwing your hands up and handing your responsibility over to the state.

michaelmrose

12 hours ago

In the US parents can mostly give their kids porn, guns, and alcohol at home. Wherein the drug isn't itself illegal you are for practical purposes also able to give your kids drugs.

Being shown to cause harm is also a meaninglessly low standard. Bathtubs, pools, and bikes can cause harm. You would need to show an actually useful standard. Lets propose will cause an unacceptable level of harmn that cannot be mitigated by less restrictive means.

I don't buy the argument that you are unacceptably harmed because you aren't capable of denying your kid social media nor do I buy the idea that social media couldn't be regulated to be less shitty and harmful.

lateforwork

12 hours ago

Exposing children to pornography is illegal federally and in all states, treated as distribution of obscene material or child exploitation with no parental exemptions. Federal law (18 U.S.C. § 2252) prohibits such exhibition to minors under 18, carrying severe penalties like imprisonment.

So precedent exists. Social media is at least as harmful as porn.

michaelmrose

9 hours ago

Has anyone ever in life been prosecuted for allowing their teen watch boobs on the internet? I mean if you at any time prior to 18 have a computer in their room you absolutely know that you basically provided an adult portal.

Before the internet as I kid I rewired our houses cable wiring and stole my dad's dirty magazines. Pretty sure damn near everyone saw adult material prior to 18.

RyanHamilton

11 hours ago

The article is ignorant of reality. "The typical under-13 social media user is not a sneaky kid. It’s a family making a decision together. " No, every other kid had it and the parent had no choice else their child would be ostracised. Their example of kids learning about volcanoes in youtube. Ha! Go look at the view number for mindless nonsense... Minecraft blabbering then find me a volcano with more child views.

wrxd

2 hours ago

I wouldn’t mind YouTube if my kids asked to watch videos of volcanoes. Instead they always end up trying to watch the most annoying people possible playing video games for a few minutes before we ask them to switch it off.

If YouTube really cared about kids they should allow users to pick a subset of channels and never ever mention again anything else. Alas, we all know this will never happen because YouTube doesn’t care about what people watch as long as they come back watching some more

periodjet

11 hours ago

Would it be preferable if Congress wanted us to hand our parenting to the state?

altacc

13 hours ago

The problem with "let the parents decide" is that so many parents take the option of least resistance and currently that's a terrible option. From what I see of my childrens' peers, it's not parents are deciding to let their children run wild on social media, it's that they don't even think about it, they just hand over a phone or tablet, often with their own login, and don't think much about it.

One way of solving this is if the default was everything locked down, then effort needed to give the children anything, forcing parents to consider each permission.

However I also see that parents are addicted to their devices and social media, so don't see the problem.

ls612

13 hours ago

I’m still not convinced what is fundamentally different today about social media compared to violent video games which were the supposed evil my parents obsessed about when I was a kid. This is just the “sex drugs and rock & roll” for the 21st century’s control freaks.

zugi

13 hours ago

And before sex, drugs, and rock 'n roll it was that sinful Lindy Hop those kids were doing.

linguae

11 hours ago

I lean libertarian and I resent the nanny state, but I’m sympathetic to the idea of restricting social media access to children for two reasons:

1. Even in the 1990s, there were problems with child predators using chat rooms and Web forums to talk to minors for inappropriate, illegal purposes.

2. Social media “algorithms” (recommender systems) that are designed around increasing user engagement are a big problem.

I’m very cautious about poorly written legislation with too-broad definitions of social media that restrict useful forms of Internet access for children. However, I believe that algorithmic social media is harmful, especially to minors, and I am sympathetic to restrictions for minors provided that the laws are well-written.

zugi

11 hours ago

> I lean libertarian and I resent the nanny state, but ... I am sympathetic to restrictions for minors provided that the laws are well-written.

Then you know that "but think of the children" is the most common fear-mongering approach to justify increased authoritarianism. I've seen no way to craft legislation on this issue that uses government force to achieve your desired outcome, that don't also create massive undesired effects like invasion of privacy or outlawing anonimity. Can you point to some model laws on this that you like?

There are plenty of apps that parents who care can install on their kids' devices or ISP and carrier services to limit kids' social media access.

sylens

12 hours ago

You can’t tell the difference between a finite experience like Goldeneye or Doom and an endlessly scrolling, network connected app like TikTok, optimized to feed you what it thinks will keep you scrolling?

SpicyLemonZest

12 hours ago

I'd encourage you to read some of the stuff that people were saying back then. Some choice quotes from a Senate hearing (https://www.govinfo.gov/content/pkg/CHRG-106shrg78656/pdf/CH...):

> Kids as young as 3 years old can use mounted guns to shoot people to pieces and watch blood splatter on the screen. Kids get points for killing people. Parents eat pizza while their kids blow somebody up. I have friends who play them. Their eyes look crazy when they play them, and they get excited when the blood splatters and parts of bodies fly.

> The project is going to continue for a long time, because it is really hard to convince some people about the dangers. Some will not even listen. Some parents do not think it is harmful for a child to make blood splatter and body parts explode. I do not understand why they think it is okay to do this killing.

> Mortal Kombat series, Mortal Kombat Ultimate—This has joysticks. You use your fists and legs and feet. Bodies explode blood when you hit them. Mortal Kombat Ultimate says on the screen—‘‘There is no Knowledge that is not Power.’’ Does that mean that if you know how to kill someone, then you will have power?

It's very hard for me to read commentary on social media and not be reminded of this kind of rhetoric. All of the individual facts are true, it's hard to explain exactly what's wrong, and it's clear that everyone in this hearing passionately believed that disaster was incoming if we didn't take action. Yet I'm very confident that video games do not have the negative effects they thought were obvious.

ls612

12 hours ago

Obviously the particulars of each generation’s moral panic are different, but the fundamental nature of moral panics remain the same.

michaelmrose

12 hours ago

I don't think rock and roll taught fundamentally bad values nor did playing mario or doom.

Social media is by contrast fairly designed to spread 17 different kinds of poisonous stupidity. So you liked $conspiracy_theory... how about 10 more 3 of which suggest genocide!

verdverm

12 hours ago

Disney is worse in ways, subtle sexual imagery in their cartoons and interpersonal drama in their teen shows. Kids are learning these patterns before they even get to social media

PlatoIsADisease

12 hours ago

While I am quite laissez-faire and not sure how much I care about this particular issue, I have seen this mentality on teaching. "Its the parents fault the kids can't read in college."

No... They spent 13 years in government school, that is not the parents fault if they can't read. If we assume its the parents job to educate their kids, there will be some 1-5% of kids that fall through the cracks, damning millions of kids to failure.

For policy that we care about, it is not good enough to have parents decide.

bigbadfeline

12 hours ago

> No... They spent 13 years in government school

If that school doesn't take into account parents' preferences it would be a farm, not a school.

> If we assume its the parents job to educate their kids

We should assume it's the school's job to educate kids approximately in alignment with the wishes of their parents.

> For policy that we care about, it is not good enough to have parents decide.

"Good enough" for whom? Who is supposed to decide to the exclusion of parents? How such a decision is going to be made? Who is going to be responsible for the inevitable failures which are now called "successes"?

> "Its the parents fault the kids can't read in college."

If you understand what I'm trying to say here, you'll know that parents will always get the blame, no other party is willing to accept even the slightest hint of responsibility.

PlatoIsADisease

9 hours ago

I don't think I could disagree more. Government education should be preparing people to create GDP and pro-social behavior.