I get the logic and I get where you come from.
I come from a place where of all "information sources" scholar.google.com is still one of the slightly more trustworthy ones. the review process has its quirks, but it's better than no peer review at all.
in that world, where academic peer reviews appears to be a last "bastion" of reliability, a statement like the one that started this thread is something I feel the urge to "nib the bud".
if we were in a room I'd suggest we have beer of sorts and a good laugh about the irony of this thread.
I think you need to be careful to not initiate the very rhetoric game you want to fight. if your top level statement had been your anecdata, and maybe a question about the pervasiveness of this phenomenon and if there is nuance? like, if the journal asks an expert in the field about a review and they do know relevant papers, maybe indeed some of their own, a citation request may be just fine?
I'd said nothing. just nothing.
but the thread starter overgeneralized the missing trustworthiness of the scientific peer process as a whole.
and there I dared to ask: is that really so? should we stop trusting published science, in general, and "do our own research" ;-)
do you see, where I come from? do you see the irony of this thread?
and can we have a figurative beer?
Let's have a beer but I want to give you some feedback too:
When someone says something, it's a good idea to assume they are not lying to you, even when it's something you disagree with. So when you read on the internet "this has happened to me every time and happens to every scientist I know," you should read that as though it is coming from someone who is positioned to make that statement.
From that point, if you disagree (which you do), make the content of your disagreement clear. Something like this works great: "I don't think this is true - they mostly have real context to add." Then we will have something to discuss that is narrow enough to have a fruitful dialogue that expands the point of contention for the readers, and opens the door to higher effort from your interlocutor. Debate (including online debate) is not for the participants, but for the third parties.
Start with an assumption of good faith even if you don't like the wording. Then, respond in good faith back and you will get the discussion you want.